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Self-Compassion Makes You the Partner You Want to be Toward Your Loved One

Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

Self-Compassion Makes You the Partner You Want to be Toward Your Loved One

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:18+00:00February 13th, 2013|Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

After chiding her live- in boyfriend of five years, thirty-three year old boutique owner Nicole was full of self-loathing. She was angry that she had lost her temper with thirty-five year old car service manager Craig who was constantly letting her down. Nicole watched herself berate him for his sloppiness and half-finished chores. She saw Craig cringe and it reminded her of the times when her father laid into her for not doing as he expected. She didn’t want to be anything like her father. She was alarmed and ashamed that she behaved exactly like her dad, and wasn’t able to do anything to stop it.

Is Guilt The Stick that Motivates You Into Action?

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T19:06:16+00:00August 2nd, 2011|Anxiety therapy|

Doing things you know you should do just to avoid guilt means you are reacting to bad feelings.It is a harsh stick that never stops beating you. Guilt is a negative motivator stopping you from ever doing things out of joy, happiness, excitement or for self-improvement. Learn how to throw the guilt out of the window and get back in touch with your true motivation to have warm relationships just because you are you and not because you have to earn it or get punished when you don't do as you should. Make space for your authentic motivation and see how easy it is to get things done!

Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:30+00:00July 5th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

Are you driven by shame, fear and punishment? Then you have to go down to rock bottom before you pick yourself up and achieve your goals for good relationships and positive self-esteem. Learn how to bypass the shame and feel worthwhile again.