Four Ways to Silence Your Self-Critical Voice

By |2017-05-22T22:57:08+00:00December 2nd, 2014|Anger Management Counseling|

After a relaxing weekend, thirty-three year old Daniel hated when he felt that feeling in the pit of his stomach, reminding him that a new week was about to begin. He enjoyed his two-days-a-week off so much that the transition was painful and anxiety provoking. The thought of leaving his ‘treasure island’ and re-entering the world of reality made him nauseous as he prepared to tear himself away from his personal paradise of ‘do-nothing-and relax’ time. He had to up date his financial records; getting the flyers and ads out for new listings he had procured for his real estate business and keep appointments with his ten-year-old son Drew’s school meetings. He had to go back to being a robot to get through this week, just like every other. The only way he could get himself ready for the job was to whip himself into a state of frenzy and panic – imagining the urgency with which he had to attend to the tasks as hand, for if he didn’t – he was a lazy, useless, unproductive, undeserving layabout!

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Three Ways To Harness Your Anger, Hate and Frustration to Get What You Want

By |2017-05-22T23:05:54+00:00November 17th, 2014|Anger Management Counseling|

Are you envious of other peoples relationships? Are you consumed with frustration that other people seem to get what they want and have the 'perfect' relationship while you are struggling to get off the ground? When you are feeling unfulfilled and unhappy in your own relationship, other couples are viewed in idealistic terms. You imagine that just because they are out together or buying groceries together that their relationship must be warm and stress free. You wan the same thing! You don't know why you can't have it, and you feel life is treating you unfairly, despite you being a 'good' person. Thats what happened to thirty-seven year old Jocelyn after her marriage ended in divorce.

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Stress Prevents you From Using Your Skills in Controlling Negative Emotions

By |2017-05-22T22:59:32+00:00May 19th, 2014|Anger Management Counseling|

Have you ever been annoyed and frustrated that everything you learned and practiced about managing your emotions failed you at the crucial moment? It’s so disappointing when you have been to an anger management class, or spent time and money on CD’s, DVD’s and or coaches to help you master those intense feelings, only to find that you can’t access that learning when you need it the most. That’s what happened to thirty-six-year-old Hugh a film distributor over and over again when he was out in public with his thirty-four-year old second wife June, a publicist. He was very much in love with June who was beautiful, smart and caring – so different to his first wife who only seemed interested in material things and never made him feel good as a person. Yet, at one of the many parties they attending, when June didn’t go to his side the minute he called her, he felt the blood rush to his head and an irritated voice coming out of him – getting angrier and angrier with each demand he made.

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Are You Losing Loved Ones Because of Anger?

By |2017-09-13T20:39:41+00:00May 5th, 2014|Anger Management Counseling|

Has your loved one told you that they want nothing more to do with you until you learn how to manage your anger? Are you scared that you will lose your loved one for ever, be alone and miserable for the rest of your life? Do you wish you could just cut out that angry part of you and then live happily ever after? Then you must be feeling even more angry that you can't get rid of that angry monster inside you. Watch this video and learn why you are so angry that other people make relationships with you conditional on you taming your anger!

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Do you numb yourself in order to manage your angry outbursts only to have them explode later on?

By |2017-05-22T22:42:58+00:00June 11th, 2013|Anger Management Counseling|

If your partner is threatening to leave if you don’t go to anger management therapy, then you are probably trying to be quiet and unassuming to avoid risking an angry outburst. But ironically you are only making it more likely that you will have more angry explosions, more often and of a fiercer nature.

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Work on anger issues to help your relationships

By |2017-05-22T22:45:53+00:00December 7th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

Are you angry about having to do all the work in your relationship? Do you feel like protesting against always having to take the initiative? Perhaps the only way to protest is to shut down and hope your partner will miss you enough to bring you back to life. But it doesn't work, so you get even more angry and you get told that you have anger issues that you need to get fixed. You are told that you need to go to anger management and that you really need to learn to control your anger. But you feel justified in your anger. You just can't take one more step towards working in the relationship and letting your partner get away with not doing anything.

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Four ways to manage anger when you are taken for granted

By |2017-05-22T22:46:49+00:00October 10th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

Natalie took the hospitality for granted, and Shelly saw red. How could Natalie be so blind, insensitive and callous? Couldn't she tell how much she was hurting Shelly? Didn't Natalie know how much Shelly had put her life on hold to organize the visit? Wasn't it obvious how much money she had to borrow from Devon, and all the activities with friends and colleagues she had turned down? Shelly couldn't get over the fact that her well heeled sister would be so selfish, thoughtless and ungrateful. Her buttons were pushed a million times a day during that long weekend. But she never said a word.

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Six way to manage anger when you feel ignored

By |2017-09-13T17:24:20+00:00October 1st, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

"One more song" his wife pleaded. Mordi was inflamed. Who was more important to Lola, her friends or her husband? That was the burning question that pushed and prodded at his hot buttons. He threatened to leave without her if she didn't chose him there and then! Embarrassed, Lola excused herself and left with Mordi. On the way home she asked " Why do you always have to spoil my fun?" "You promised we would go when I gave you the signal. You broke your promise. You made me mad. It's your fault." Mordi blamed him wife.

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Reducing anger when your partner misunderstands your motives

By |2017-09-13T18:21:06+00:00September 27th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

" Why are you checking up on me? You must think I'm an idiot! You just don't believe I can handle this do you?" Kodi responded, irritated and upset at her insinuations. " You never tell me anything unless I pry it out of you. I want to know what goes on in your life, because I'm your partner." Cianna reacted with indignation. " You treat me like a child, always asking me if I did something or how I did it. I don't have to be accountable to you. You're not my mother!" Kodi roared as he tried to retain a modicum of ownership over his own life.

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Dealing with anger when you feel emotionally blackmailed

By |2017-09-13T17:21:19+00:00September 27th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

Fabienne drooled over that gorgeous pair of shoes in the store window. Just for once she wanted to indulge herself by splurging on something personal that wasn't an absolute necessity. She had spoken to Larry about it and he gave her the go ahead. This weekend she was going to treat herself without doubts or guilt.........Saturday morning Larry twisted the knife...............Fabienne's heart flew out of her chest. Her jaw tightened, her teeth ground together and her body went rigid. Gasps of indignation and disbelief gathered in her throat.........

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