adminla, Author at LA Westside Therapy

How your dream can help you overcome bad memories that keep you stuck

By adminla|2017-09-13T18:02:08+00:00August 22nd, 2012|Blog, Dreams|

As 2009 came to an end, Donna was struggling with the lack of motivation she felt at the thought of the same old Christmas and New Year rituals with family members. She didn't want to go through these meaningless experiences just to feel part of a family. Donna wanted to shake things up and have more choice in how the holiday time was spent. She also wanted to get away from pretending to feel grateful for whatever her parents had planned. Her desire to make some choices of her own and do things her way made her antsy. How was she going to organize it without upsetting the apple cart? Then came the dream that helped her with her conflict.

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Your dreams can tell you whether to keep trying to make things work with your family

By adminla|2017-09-13T19:45:12+00:00August 21st, 2012|Blog, Dreams|

Donna was heartbroken that all the time and energy she had devoted to building a relationship with her father seemed to end in tatters. Now she was angry and no longer willing to do anything to please him, just to stay on his radar. She didn't want to lose him completely either. She had a dilemma that troubled her. Should she give up on him and move on with her life, or should she just see him occasionally and keep her feelings to herself?Donna's dream gave her a wonderful image of strength and power, that no longer had to be a solid ball of anger inside her. Like the wax in her dream, it melted and with it took away the fears that had chained her for so long.

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How your dream can free you of trying to get your parents’ approval

By adminla|2017-09-11T20:06:01+00:00August 21st, 2012|Blog, Dreams|

The dream haunted her. She found herself crying a lot. She looked up dream dictionaries and websites that devoted themselves to dream interpretation. All the while a pit in the bottom of her stomach nagged at her. She couldn't concentrate on her school work. She lost interest in the lives of her children. She was inside her own lonely fortress, keeping the world out, unable to feel secure in her daily routine. Eventually Celia came to consult with me. She told of the dream and drew the images. What Is The Reality Celia Has Been Avoiding? Celia had given her father ultimate authority to approve of her and make her happy. His were the only blessings that counted, his the only approval that mattered. She gave him all the power to dictate how she would experience life. She refused to take the reins of life in her own hands and give herself permission to be a woman in her own right, to be proud of herself and relish her accomplishments.

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How your dream reveals your inner terrorist that makes your life hell

By adminla|2017-09-13T17:07:00+00:00August 18th, 2012|Blog, Dreams|

Freda's Dream Of Being Chased by Bloodthirsty Men The men with beards were after her again. Those men were chasing her, brandishing long knives. They were running after Freda and her children. Freda was desperate to protect her children from this bloodthirsty group. She is scared that she is not going to be able to safeguard her children. Powerless against these violent men Freda feels like a bad and inadequate parent. Shame and Fear Keep The Dream A Secret Freda had this dream repeatedly for a long period of time. She always woke up scared. She never told anyone about it. It was kind of shameful that she was having nightmares about being a bad parent. Sharing the Dream Unburdens Freda Then Freda came to one of my dream workshops.

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Your dreams can show you how to get over the fear of getting burned again

By adminla|2017-09-13T17:32:04+00:00August 18th, 2012|Blog, Dreams|

After years of bitter sadness that she couldn't relate to her daughter, Julie realised that she was going to die a bitter and lonely woman. After she retired, the fear became stronger. Then came this dream She was in the kitchen preparing soup from a package of dried soup mix. Flames leapt out from the burners of her stove as she stirred the pot. She put her hands in the fire to rescue the soup and got burned. Later she discovered the knob and turned off the gas. Julie is Given Hope and Encouragement In her dream Julie was preparing a nourishing meal from a packet of dried soup mix. Her life was 'dried' up, without love, without connections, without meaning. Mixing the dried powder with water the dream says, can reconstitute her desire for genuine kinship. The dream showed her that her usual way of reaching out for love was by sticking her hands in the fire and getting burned - betrayed, let down, abandoned, disowned.

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Is sex the battle ground for anger in your relationship?

By adminla|2017-09-13T19:09:13+00:00August 16th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

Andre put his arm around his wife and nibbled at her ears. That usually turned her on, but not this time. She said she was tired after her trip and wasn't in the mood for sex. Andre let out a big sigh. He had been looking forward to making love with his wife. He had hoped that a few days apart would make her want him again. His imagination went wild with images of a frustrating sexless marriage.That would be unacceptable What was he to do? He didn't want to cheat, and he couldn't tolerate the thought of Shantal looking elsewhere for sexual satisfaction.

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Six ways to feel good without having to make your partner feel bad

By adminla|2017-09-13T18:24:15+00:00August 15th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

Lorraine was infuriated. She got in her car, raced the engine and zoomed into the street, the screeching tires magnifying her frustrated rage. She'd show him! Let him worry about where she was, whether she was okay, and sweat over when she would be back. He'd soon find out how valuable she was when he had to bathe the kids and put them to bed, and had no one to complain to about his tough day at work. What a selfish and self-centered man he was! He had done it again- made it all about him. She asked for one weekend to spend with her girlfriend, but Joe's work commitments and deadlines came first. He objected to being the sole care taker of the kids.

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Your dream can show you how you censor yourself and spoil your happiness

By adminla|2017-09-11T19:34:34+00:00August 15th, 2012|Blog, Dreams|

How could she look good and hang on to her intelligence, confidence and ability to make good decisions? It bothered her that she couldn't loose weight and look good because it would mean telling the world that she was just an object. Women who looked good seemed like a hollow shell, where the outside looked good but with nothing of substance inside. If she stayed like she was and focused only on her smarts, she would end up lonely and sad. People would only want her for her intellect. Quite a dilemma. Dream to the rescue As she struggled with this awful choice Donna dreamed that she lived in a beautiful stylish apartment building that had excellent security. She saw a young blond good looking woman approach the security desk claiming to be Donna. But Donna was already in her own apartment! She watched the security guard allow the impostor in without checking the records. Donna showed her anger to the security guard who didn't know what she was doing wrong. Donna was furious that this bone headed security guard would be so lax. She was even more furious that the security guard had no concern about not doing a good job.

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Keeping silent about your feelings may predispose you towards Irritable Bowel Syndrome

By adminla|2019-01-12T00:08:21+00:00August 15th, 2012|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Anger Stress and Health, stress|

Meryl woke up often through the night with abdominal pain and cramping. During the day she often felt bloated and uncomfortable. It messed with her appetite and eating routines. The constant tenderness in her gut made her afraid of going outside her home and work place. She worried about being near rest rooms. She was embarrassed about leaving events frequently to visit the rest room with no apparent relief. She never told anyone and pretended all was well.

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Four ways to stop anger from making you impotent

By adminla|2017-09-13T18:43:14+00:00August 15th, 2012|stress|

In the next two weeks Dan's mood softened and he found himself wanting sex badly. He was irritable, short tempered and tired of his self-imposed celibacy. He found himself getting instantly aroused at work when female colleagues were near by. He was consumed with the thought of sex, preventing him from concentrating on work. It was time to resume having sex with his wife. Exciting and erotic images of sex with Cherie culminated in him taking the initiative one night. Her eager response was instantly arousing. No more foreplay was necessary. He was ready for intercourse. But just at that crucial moment he went limp.

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