Are you putting your partner in a role that makes it impossible for you to enjoy a sexual relationship? You may be casting you and your partner in subtle roles that make sex a taboo. Are you looking to be spoiled and wanted to the exclusion of all others? Those wishes may be getting in your way. Learn what those roles are, why they have such a grip on your sex life, and learn how to remove them.
When you are upset that you aren't as perfect as you aimed for, you may criticize yourself, feel bad about yourself and then withdraw from the people you love. Your sense of being imperfect makes you fearful of getting close. You turn inward and shut loved ones out, making your intimate connections dissolve. Research indicates that the self-critical part of perfectionism is the most destructive force to intimacy.
Your affection may be spurned because your rhythms are out of synch with your loved one. There is a two-pronged strategy that will help create a sense of togetherness that promotes the right atmosphere for mutual affection. This video describes how to invite your partner to tune into your rhythms and be available for affection - in two easy steps that involve zero words, but the non-demanding body language.
