Doing things you know you should do just to avoid guilt means you are reacting to bad feelings.It is a harsh stick that never stops beating you. Guilt is a negative motivator stopping you from ever doing things out of joy, happiness, excitement or for self-improvement. Learn how to throw the guilt out of the window and get back in touch with your true motivation to have warm relationships just because you are you and not because you have to earn it or get punished when you don't do as you should. Make space for your authentic motivation and see how easy it is to get things done!