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Are You Losing Loved Ones Because of Anger?

By adminla|2017-09-13T20:39:41+00:00May 5th, 2014|Anger Management Counseling|

Has your loved one told you that they want nothing more to do with you until you learn how to manage your anger? Are you scared that you will lose your loved one for ever, be alone and miserable for the rest of your life? Do you wish you could just cut out that angry part of you and then live happily ever after? Then you must be feeling even more angry that you can't get rid of that angry monster inside you. Watch this video and learn why you are so angry that other people make relationships with you conditional on you taming your anger!

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OCD Therapy May Involve Getting in Touch with Suppressed Anger
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OCD Therapy May Involve Getting in Touch with Suppressed Anger

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OCD Therapy May Involve Getting in Touch with Suppressed Anger

By adminla|2017-09-11T20:14:22+00:00June 18th, 2013|stress|

For the seventh time in less than a minute twenty-five year old Denise, a proof reader, found herself checking that she had marked the page she ended on before she closed the book. Each time she put the book down and tried to get out of her chair a huge wave of anxiety and panic swept over her. She couldn’t be sure she had marked the last page she had read and that meant that she would have to start the book all over again. As the panic washed over her she ‘knew’ that she had marked the page but she wasn’t positive until she had checked again. A blanket of relief came over her when she found the page marked, but it was instantly replaced by another dose of doubt that started the checking cycle all over again. It was as if she couldn’t hold on to that proof for more than a Nano second. Irritation and annoyance gave her a break from the anxiety and panic, but she was exhausted with these obsessive doubts, and her compulsive checking.

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Do you numb yourself in order to manage your angry outbursts only to have them explode later on?
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Do you numb yourself in order to manage your angry outbursts only to have them explode later on?

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Do you numb yourself in order to manage your angry outbursts only to have them explode later on?

By adminla|2017-05-22T22:42:58+00:00June 11th, 2013|Anger Management Counseling|

If your partner is threatening to leave if you don’t go to anger management therapy, then you are probably trying to be quiet and unassuming to avoid risking an angry outburst. But ironically you are only making it more likely that you will have more angry explosions, more often and of a fiercer nature.

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Being Angry is a way to grieve – masochistic anger part 3

By adminla|2017-09-13T17:28:49+00:00August 1st, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

Byron’s anger terrified him. He did everything he could to avoid feeling it and showing it when it washed over him. He wanted to die of shame every time he saw his girlfriend’s fear and distress. He didn’t intend to hurt or scare her. She was the one good thing in his life and he would do anything to keep her. Byron’s anger was inexplicable to him. He didn’t feel it coming on and by the time it was evident, it was too late. Beverly was already anticipating something awful. Anger turned to shame and self-castigation. Byron flogged himself with unmerciful comments resulting in bleeding sores all over his self-esteem.

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What’s the best way of expressing your anger without shame?

By adminla|2017-09-13T18:31:00+00:00July 20th, 2012|Blog|

Do you prefer showing your anger by giving someone the silent treatment? Now think of the time when a friend didn’t return your calls and you felt angry at being ignored. Perhaps you didn’t answer the phone when your friend did eventually call you back. You wanted to get your own back and punish your friend. It is a conscious and premeditated act of anger. Somehow this way of releasing anger is more acceptable, but not necessarily better for the relationship.

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