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  • * How being unselfish is really selfish!
  • * How to handle the loss of hope that you will be loved the way you want
  • * How to make your partner want to be physically intimate with you!
  • * Should you apologize after an explosion of anger?
  • * How to make up after a fight without giving up!
  • * How to enjoy a relationship and protect yourself at the same time!
  • * How to stop old loyalties from getting in the way of new relationships
  • * To forgive or not to forgive, that is the question!
  • * How to stop explosive bursts of anger
  • * Four ways to manage the excitement and dread of family reunions
  • * Four alternatives to withdrawing from your romantic relationship
  • * Passover troubles and resurrect good times during the holidays
  • * How to survive a betrayal by a loved one
  • * How to make sure your gorgeous date asks you out again
  • * How gender differences in handling stress affects intimacy
  • * Three ways to share your stuff without fear of upsetting loved ones.
  • * Are you making the right kind of investment in your happiness?
  • * Overcoming that "it's not fair!" feeling
  • * Understanding your panic attacks- part 3, fear of going it alone!
  • * How to get your confidence back
  • * Why your partner falls short of your ideal partner characteristics!
  • * Three ways to manage the anxiety about pleasing your loved ones
  • * Four ways to make sure your partner values your help
  • * How to make peace without eating humble pie!
  • * How to do your thing without risking rejection from loved ones
  • * Are your flu symptoms promting you to deal with fear of commitment?
  • * Is your relationship break up permanent or just a shift in gears?
  • * How to deal when you want commitment but your partner is hesitant!
  • * How to deal with a partner who is down when you are up!
  • * Why your Sex Life Goes from Fantastic to Boring in the blink of an eye!
  • * How to feel 'new' from the inside out without even trying!
  • * Positive affirmations can damage your relationships!
  • * Why your sex life is non-existant part 2- and how to get it going again.
  • * Dealing with someone who won't own hurting you!
  • * How to deal with people who want your advice but don't take it!
  • * Do you suffer in silence in order to prove your love?
  • * How to benefit from being ditched!
  • * Why men shut down and women ramp up in conflicts!
  • * Why does your loved one believe a stranger and not you?
  • * How to rescue your marriage from roommate status!
  • * How to manage the frustrating urge to prove you are right!
  • * Why you don't feel understood when people say they understand- part 2
  • * How to ensure no one bursts your bubble!
  • * Understanding Your Panic Attacks- Part 2 - Getting Past Shame
  • * Why you don't feel understood when your loved ones say "I understand."
  • * Understanding Your Panic Attacks - part 1- Facing your dilemmas
  • * How to avoid having your hopes dashed when you meet your loved one!
  • * Three Ways To Stop Being Invisible To Your Partner
  • * How to trust loved ones so you don’t have to do everything yourself!
  • * How persistent stress induced pain and infection can rescue your marriage!
  • * How to share what's going on with you so it gets through to your loved ones!
  • * Why protecting your partner may be the worst move you ever make!
  • * How to stop others from making your stuff all about them!
  • * How to turn a volatile conflictual marriage into a happy validating union.
  • * How to express hurt and feel better!
  • * Perfectionism may be ruining your intimate relationships!
  • * How to get over that "there's no point" feeling!
  • * How does your style of eye contact impact relationship satisfaction?
  • * How to bargain successfully with your loved ones!
  • * How bitterness and self-blame makes you sick and depressed
  • * How to get off the emotional roller coaster with your partner
  • * How to prevent bitterness and blame from making you sick!
  • * How to deal with being blamed for everything!
  • * What makes an exciting relationship turn into a heavy burden?
  • * How to manage the pain of jealousy
  • * Is Guilt The Stick that Motivates You Into Action?
  • * How to get your partner to talk when you want!
  • * Do you want to be driven by fear or self-worth?
  • * Is Your Style of Flirting Working For You?
  • * What makes your partner break promises?
  • * How to stop feeling used in relationships
  • * Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?- part 2
  • * How to stop being lonely!
  • * Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?
  • * How to be independent and still be loved!
  • * Are you dying for affection but cringe when it comes?
  • * How to deal with the "damned if I do, and damned if I don't situation!
  • * Do you have to give up your past in order to have a loving future?
  • * How to make your imagined relationship into a reality!
  • * How a bladder infection can save intimacy in your marriage!
  • * What’s the right combination of commitment for harmonious relationships?
  • * *(How to get affection on your schedule!)*
  • * How to manage two parts of you that want different things!
  • * *(How to get through to loved ones without repeating yourself!)*
  • * How to regain control and self-respect when you feel betrayed
  • * *(How to manage when your partner loses interest in you!)*
  • * How to manage rejection sensitivity and be more open to love!
  • * *(How to be loved 24/7 even if you think you don't deserve it!)*
  • * What makes you happy - people or accomplishments?
  • * *(How to turn nagging into loving connections)*
  • * Is fear of being impactful depriving you of intimacy?
  • * *(How to hang onto good feelings)*
  • * How to deal with the “ if you really loved me you would……..” syndrome!
  • * *(How to get your partner to love you the way you want!)*
  • * What type of self-sacrifice benefits intimate relationships?
  • * *(How to converse with your date so you both feel special!)*
  • * How to stop using hoarding as your intimacy substitute!
  • * *(How to tell if loved ones mean what they say!)*
  • * How to manage fatigue due to relationship problems
  • * *(How to get your own way, avoid guilt and still feel lovable!)*
  • * How to get more by working less at relationships
  • * *(How to deal with the regret of the "I wish I had said...." feeling.)*
  • * Three ways to end back pain linked to mistrust in relationships
  • * *(How to deal with negative reactions you didn't intend to cause!)*
  • * Four LOVE steps for singles to turn dates into long term relationships
  • * *(How to deal with complaining loved ones)*
  • * The secret ingredients for empathy in relationships - part 3
  • * *(How To communicate that you really care)*
  • * The second secret to being empathic and boosting your relationship
  • * *(How to Speak Your Mind Without Feeling Monstrous!)*
  • * Four Ways to Share Feelings and be Empathic -part1
  • * *(How to Avoid Conflict With A Dose of Curiosity)*
  • * 7 Ways to deal with feeling 'needy' in relationships- Part 3
  • * Three ways to avoid feeling needy in relationships- part 2
  • * Two ways to avoid the shame of feeling 'needy.'
  • * Three ways to prevent self-defeatism from causing relationship stress
  • * Fear of Intimacy - Five Tell Tale Signs
  • * How to avoid the same mistakes after a break up
  • * Five ways to breach a misunderstanding with your partner
  • * Do you fit the four point profile of a cheater?
  • * Is relationship stress making your skin dry out?
  • * How to deal with controlling people in your relationships
  • * Ten Ways to Manage Holiday Family Stress
  • * Enjoying Intimacy Like You Did In The Early Days
  • * How to Stop Anger From Ruining Good Times
  • * How to Make up After a Fight and Find Intimacy


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    Do you feel anxious  and tense when things are rough between you and your loved ones?
     
    Are you stressed out because you can’t find a way to smooth out the kinks in your relationships?

    The lack of control you feel is the most stressful part of managing the relationship.

    Repeated episodes of tension and uncertainty cause acute and chronic relationship stress.

    Why let stress and frustration rule and ruin your life?

    Psychotherapy can help you manage relationship stress by:


    1.    Learn how to tune into an early warning ‘alert system’ when the relationship feels “off.”     You can then be proactive in selecting an effective way to get the relationship back on track.

    Benefit: you will be able to communicate your needs, wishes and feelings in a way that combines feelings and reason.     You will be using all four cylinders instead of one or two that are available when you are stressed out with fear and frustration.

    2. Discover and manage the sore spots that get repeatedly triggered when your relationship develops cracks and causes you stress.     You will in effect be rewiring your brain to react differently to stress, and become more resilient.

    Benefit: you will feel more grounded and capable,  functioning effectively in your life without shutting down. You will handle your relationship stress in healthier ways rather than distracting yourself with harmful activities or substances.

    3. Be able  to hold onto positive memories and experiences, putting the current breach in the relationship into a larger and more realistic picture.

    Benefit:         Good memories reduce stress and gives you a feeling of greater security. You develop confidence in the lasting nature of the relationship, acting in ways that maintain ties, and strengthen connections. In turn your confidence enables you to take down your guard and operate in a less stressed out manner.

    So why live on the edge?

     

    Call 310 – 985- 2491 to set up your appointment

    Learn to reduce relationship stress by using effective communication skills.


    Copyright Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.