The wish to take revenge when you feel betrayed, but the pleasure short lived.
“ No matter how much I wanted to believe that my friends and family cared for me, it was hard to trust them. I had lived through a ton of broken promises that really hurt me. I was always expecting to be betrayed. I would listen in on phone calls, check my partner’s e-mails, FaceBook and MySpace pages and all the sites they visited on the computer. It didn’t take long for me to put two and two together and make ten, feel threatened with betrayal, loose all trust and end the relationship. Psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond helped me understand why it was so difficult for me to trust. I learned that most people are not out to screw me or take me for a ride. I discovered mutual trust and no longer live in fear waiting for the next act of betrayal. I have been able to stay with my partner for four years because of the work I did with Dr. Raymond.” Fitness and Pilates trainer.
Do you feel betrayed when your partner or friend chooses to do something with other people instead of you?
Do you get anxious and fearful that your friends and loved ones are hiding things from you if they don’t tell you everything you want to know and prove their sincerity?
Are you on the look out for the lie that proves your point, or the act that demonstrates a lack of loyalty?
Are you on the verge of losing your most valued relationships because your partner, friends or family members can no longer deal with your fear of betrayal and lack of trust?
Do your loved ones feel you are ‘paranoid’?
Do your friends and loved ones describe you as an unfair judge and jailor because they have to prove their innocence of thought and action?
It is difficult to enjoy relationships when you don’t feel you can trust your loved ones, and they feel unfairly maligned.
You can’t let yourself go and your loved ones feel they have to censor every word and action so as not to arouse your suspicion.
The relationship becomes a drag, intimacy disappears and everyone lives a life of careful pretense.
Psychotherapy can help you deal with issues of mistrust and fear of betrayal by:
1.Reducing your fear and suspicion so that you can believe in yourself as a lovable person.
Benefit: you will be able to tolerate your friends and loved ones doing their own thing without feeling scared that it is a sign of betrayal.
2. Teaching you how to feel more secure in your relationships by interpreting the behavior of your friends and loved ones according to their loving intents rather than your suspicious lens.
Benefit: you feel safe and cared for rather than under constant threat, allowing for more closeness.
3. Working on the reasons why you feel that loved ones and friends can’t be trusted, and why no proof is ever enough for you?
Benefit: you will deal with past relationship scars that continue to influence your current and future relationships in a negative way. You will be free to view friends and loved ones as human, rather than people who want to hurt you but hide their tracks.
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photograph copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph,D.