Commitment means accepting and loving the imperfections in each other
“It was hard to be with a partner who never seemed satisfied with my commitment. No matter what I did or said, I was always being asked to prove it over and over again. It made me want to disconnect which in turn made my partner feel I was less committed than ever. Psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond helped us to notice and absorb signs of commitment that we had overlooked previously. My partner was able to feel my commitment without raising the bar to an unacceptable level. I was able to relax into the relationship and enjoy my partner’s satisfaction which made us both feel fulfilled in our relationship.” Relieved twenty-eight year old designer.
Are you unsure about how committed your friends or loved ones are in your relationships?
Do you worry that you are more committed than your partner?
Are you tired of the demands to prove long term and genuine commitment in your relationships?
Psychotherapy can help you figure out how to deal with issues of commitment by:
1. Showing you how to gauge appropriate levels of commitment from friends and loved ones.
Benefit: you will have more stability and security in your relationships, so you can enjoy what you have instead of being plagued by a relationship needing constant proof as oxygen to keep it alive.
2. Helping train your emotional antenna to tune into the subtle but vital signs and signals that are evidence of commitment but which pass you by.
Benefit: you get a constant stream of information that lets you know that your loved ones are committed and that they feel the same coming from you.
3. How to tell the difference between lack of commitment and needing time to oneself.
Benefit: you will be able to stay calm and feel secure when you can make the distinction between your friend and loved one needing ‘down time’ versus avoiding you or going “off” you. Relationships will feel less pressured and more desirable.
4. Help you deal with the disappointment that may come when your friends and loved ones refuse to demonstrate commitment in the exact way that you need it.
Benefit: you learn how to love and be loved 'warts and all' which is the acid test of true long term commitment.
Copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.
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