Have you been caught in conflict ridden relationships that pull the rug from under you?
You know how stressful arguments and disagreements can be. The heart racing, teeth clenching, stomach churning feelings are just awful.
Do you feel equally bad whether you win or loose?
Feeling hurt and diminished devalues your sense of self-worth, and make you less likely to expect something positive from the relationship.
You may feel revengeful and want to punish your loved ones or make them suffer like you.
You may just ‘take it’ in order to keep the peace, but build up hate and resentment which turns you into a victim.
Psychotherapy can equip you with tools to manage the uncomfortable see-saw of conflict by
1. Helping you identify and put into words exactly what you want or don’t want from a person when you interact.
Benefit: clarity of your immediate motives enables you to specify what you need before you reach breaking point and get into a fight.
2. Helping you avert the triggers that set off the familiar pattern of conflict.
Benefit: Relationship conflict is avoided and you can express the impact your loved one is having on you in ways that get seen and heard.
3. Helping you find alternative ways of asserting yourself and being an equal player.
Benefit: you feel solid and self-assured, clear and self-accepting. You don’t have to knock someone down to fight for your life, nor stay down yourself in an effort to avoid disturbing the relationship.
Copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.
Call 310. 985. 2491
get relationship advice tailored to your needs for conflict reduction