I felt lighter and more coordinated when I add my feelings to my intellect so I get the right mix for me!
I went through the day functioning on auto pilot and then I would try to focus on “me and my stuff.” I hated dealing with my issues so it was a relief to get distracted by work and other people. The thing was that I never dealt with my issues and they kept getting bigger and bugging me and interfering with my smooth operation. After working with Dr. Raymond I realized that I put these two parts of me on parallel tracks and never got to the station of my hopes and dreams. Dr. Raymond helped me feel comfortable using all parts of me together so that I didn’t have to do two jobs in order to survive. I felt less burdened when I let my feelings mix with my intellect and make decisions that worked out. I discovered that I was more satisfied and complete as nothing was left out or forgotten. I feel more of me, and at the same time lighter, after Dr. Raymond supported me in accepting my emotions as having a special wisdom that I was grateful to tap into. My emotions no longer feel shameful. They are caring guides and can be trusted and steered with my intelligence. Female program director.
I kept my feelings tied up and couldn't make relationships work
As an actress I was able to call up what ever emotions were required for the part with little difficulty. But in my personal life I didn't trust my feelings. I used my head to interpret things thinking it was a lot of hard work. It made me feel more in control but my relationships felt distant and unsatisfying. Psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond has helped me to trust my feelings. Now they just come naturally and inform me about what I really want and don't want. I let my feelings guide me and they are spot on. I add words to them and they really reflect my true self. It's so much easier to share myself with friends and family. I can feel things spontaneously and enjoy being spontaneous with others. I feel less tired and more inclined to relate. Thirty-seven year old entertainer
I learned why I felt unloved and can now receive and enjoy as much love as I need!
“I used to guard a good feeling and bat everything else away. It was hard work. Now I don’t feel I’ll lose it if I let other stuff in. Psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond, helped me realize that having other feelings won’t wipe out the first one. I feel cared for and seen by others.
Now I can have more than one feeling at the same time which makes it easier to connect with others.”
I can see how trying to hang onto a single good feeling stopped me from letting others come in to offer me support and appreciation.. Forty-five year old female teacher.
I used to gag myself to ensure I didn't let my anger get the better of me
I thought that anger was a bad thing and that I was letting myself down if I felt angry and a terrible person if I showed it. No matter how hard I tried to avoid feeling angry it kept coming up and it made me despair. I read every book on anger and emotion to find ways to control it. I tried meditation practices but that didn't help either. Psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond helped me to realize that my anger was legitimate. That freed me like nothing else ever did. Miraculously since having my anger justified I haven't felt as angry. That pain in my chest has gone, and I feel so much more in control than before. Now my anger ebbs and flows without making me panic to kill it. It no longer disrupts my life. As soon as I allow it to exist it looses power. My life has truly never felt so liberating. Thirty-nine year owner-manager in retail business.
Guilt made me resent and hate my family. Now I feel loving and loved in return!
“I used to do everything out of guilt. I would feel manipulated, get angry but not speak up. The guilt would overwhelm me and I would do what was being asked. It felt like I had to do it or else I would be a bad person and no one would want to be with me. Then I would hate the person that made be feel guilty and the relationship would suffer.
Psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond helped me become more aware of this pattern. I can catch that guilty feeling right away and stop it. I give myself a choice and do things only if I really want to. I actually enjoy doing things that way whereas before it felt like a chore that went unrecognized and unappreciated.
Now the relationships doesn’t feel so forced and I actually like the person who asked me to do something for them.” Thirty-two year old administrator.
I discovered how guilt and shame stopped me from relating to family and friends!
“It was always hard for me to share myself with others. I had a fantasy that they knew just by looking at me so I didn’t have to say anything. I hoped they would want to be with me but I would never say it. That applied to my parents, friends, husband and son. I never said what I truly felt and after psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond I understand that by keeping silent I was sabotaging myself. I was withholding myself maybe because I was angry at my loved ones for not taking the initiative. It robbed me of not only being able to express myself and get it out there, but took so much energy away in just trying to hold it in.
Now I can articulate what’s going on with me even if I’m ashamed or guilty.
I am more open now. I’ve been able to be with people emotionally for the first time in my life. I now see that I was always hiding behind a barrier. Dr. Raymond has helped me remove the barrier and actually connect with people.” Forty year old independent contractor.
Copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.