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  • * Do You Have To Choose between Romance and a Good Mate?
  • * Procrastinating About an Ambition May Be the Key To Authentic Success!
  • * Dealing With Jealousy When Your Partner is Attracted to Someone Else
  • * Your Rule About What Love is Can Bar You From Receiving it - part 10
  • * Rules About Who Makes You Happy, Makes You Angry and Envious -part 9
  • * Rules About What Makes Relationships Last Stop Them From Ever Starting -part 8
  • * Rules About Being Your Partner's Savior Harm Your Relationship - part 7
  • * Fear Based Rules About Feeling Secure in Your Relationship Can End It! Part 6
  • * Save Your Marriage By Avoiding Relationship Rules About Your Partner's Behaviour - part 5
  • * Rules About How You Should Express Your Needs Can Rupture Your Marriage- part 4
  • * Don't Ruin Your Marriage With Thorny Relationship Rules - part 3
  • * How Your Dating Rules Make Sure You Never Find The Partner You Want - part 2
  • * Your Dating Rules May Be Ruining Your Chances of Making a Good Relationship - part 1
  • * Are You And Your Partner Together On What ‘Togetherness’ Means?
  • * Stop The Cycle of Attraction To The Wrong Person And Learn To Like The Right One!
  • * The Third Magnet That Attracts You Towards The Wrong Life Partner
  • * Why You Choose The Wrong Partner Over And Over Again - part 2
  • * Why You Keep Getting Attracted To The Wrong Person- part 1
  • * How To Avoid The Stress When Your Spouse Nags At You For Being Unresponsive
  • * Regaining Your Sense of Security When Your Relationship Feels Unstable
  • * Are you ashamed of your relationship and hide it from family and friends?
  • * Are your personal goals likely to save your marriage or break it up?
  • * Continual Separating and reuniting doesn't have to threaten your relationship!
  • * Two ways to get your partner to accept that they need therapy to deal with their problems
  • * How perfectionism turns you into a liar to yourself and your loved ones
  • * How to use lies in relationships as catalysts to improve communication
  • * How to be happy in a relationship by tuning into your partner's needs
  • * How to relieve stress in a marriage by sharing jobs
  • * How to manage conflict in a relationship so you don't feel prejudged
  • * Managing co-dependency in a marriage - the second five steps in learning to support rather than rescue
  • * Managing family co-dependency - the first five steps in learning to support rather than rescue
  • * Is Co-Dependency the Currency of Your Family Relationships?
  • * How Do You Build Trust in a Relationship When You are Repeatedly Let Down?
  • * How to Get Your Boyfriend Back After Throwing Him Out
  • * Sibling Rivalries in Adulthood May be Due to Invisible Childhood Trauma
  • * How to Repair Family Relationships That Get Broken With Repeated Hurts
  • * The Main Barrier to Communication in Marriage is Fear of Listening Empathically
  • * Self-Compassion Makes You the Partner You Want to be Toward Your Loved One
  • * How to Get What You Want From Your Valentine
  • * Where to Find a Boyfriend When the Current One is No Good?
  • * Are You Ready For Couples Therapy?
  • * Is Family Conflict Making a Friend Out of One Loved One and an Enemy of Another?
  • * Breaking Up Doesn't Have To Be so Hard To Do!
  • * Complimenting Your Partner Can Cause Relationship Problems!
  • * Uncover Your Hidden Motives That Sabotage Your Success!
  • * Develop Good Communication Skills and Solve Marriage Problems
  • * Self-help For Couples That Actually Works!
  • * Expressing Hurt Saves Relationships While Anger Causes Relationship Breakups
  • * Getting The Most Out of Couples Counseling
  • * Sharing Emotions Promotes Bonding That Supports You In Crisis
  • * How To Make Your Boyfriend Love You More and Find a Husband In Him
  • * Should You Leave Your Partner or Stay Hoping They Will Love You One Day!
  • * Save Your Marriage By Letting In Your Partner's Support
  • * How To Trust In Relationships
  • * Solving The Hurt Of Family Problems
  • * Save Your Marriage With Impactful Communications
  • * Dating Tips For Men To Relieve Anxiety About Finding a Girlfriend
  • * What Makes You Push Your Partner Away and Choose Depression and Loneliness?
  • * Dealing With a Partner Who Cannot Trust You and Insists You Are a Cheater
  • * Conflict Recovery Style Determines Whether Couples Stay Together
  • * Where Is Your Spouse When There Is No Response To Your Texts And Calls?
  • * Conflicting Secret Wishes And Motives Threaten Your Marriage Big Time!
  • * How To Deal With a Partner Who Lies And Cheats
  • * Do You Feel Abandoned When Your Partner Is With Family And Friends?
  • * Dealing With a Loved One Who Refuses To Talk When You Want To
  • * Why Women Take Longer Than Men To Cheer Up After Getting In A Fight or Bad Mood.
  • * Getting Proof That Your Partner Is Committed To You
  • * A Proven Way To Stop The Stress Of Conflict And Reconnect With Your Loved One
  • * How To Make Sure Your Date Turns Into a Positive Intimate Healthy Relationship.
  • * Do You Suffer In Silence In Order To Prove Your Love?
  • * How To Feel Included When You Feel Alone In a Group
  • * How To Transition Between Loved Ones Without Feeling Insecure
  • * Enjoying The Now Relationships Instead Of Waiting For Some Future Pleasure
  • * White Lies And Whoopers Make You Sick, Depressed And Cut Off From loved Ones.
  • * The Secret To Getting Loved Ones To Believe And Accept Your Facts!
  • * Why Your Ideal Of A Perfect Marriage Causes Your Finance To Break Off The Engagement
  • * How To Avoid Feeling Attacked When Your Partner Is Venting!
  • * How To Join In The Conversation Without Fearing Being Shut Down
  • * Keeping Silent About Your Stress Ensures Your Partner is Emotionally Unavailable To You
  • * How To Prove That You Are Not The Same As Your Partner's Exes!
  • * Do You Regret Rejecting a Possible Partner and Ending Up Alone and Scared?
  • * The Two Most Serious Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
  • * Why 9 out of 10 Apologies Fail to Improve Relationships
  • * How To Manage Doubt and Loneliness After You Have Broken Up With Your Partner
  • * Five Ways to Find and Keep Available Partners Without Sabotaging Yourself!
  • * The Least Stressful Way yo Break Up With Your Girl/Boyfriend!
  • * Four Ways To Deal With A Hostile And Aggressive Partner
  • * How To Take A Break From Your Loved One Without Feeling Disloyal
  • * Ensure Your Relationship Against a Loss of Intimacy and Commitment!
  • * End Those Dreaded Fights And Enjoy Peaceful Relationships
  • * How to Manage The Guilt Of Saying 'No' To Your Partner!
  • * How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think!
  • * How to make sure your relationship makes it past the initial romance
  • * How to deal with verbal attacks from your loved ones.
  • * How to deal with a loved one who texts others while in your company!
  • * How to recognize the 3 prerequisites of love and feel wanted!
  • * How to make that decision you have been putting off!
  • * What's the secret to being liked and popular and wanted?
  • * How to feel wanted instead of rejected!
  • * Who controls your energy levels, you or your loved one?
  • * How to stop a conversation turning into a fight!
  • * How to update failed relationship rules that cause your insomnia
  • * How to bring the zing back into an "okay" sex life!
  • * How come the people you date haven’t got their acts together?
  • * How to enjoy health and intimacy over the holiday weekend
  • * How to get the most satisfaction from venting to loved ones!
  • * How being unselfish is really selfish!
  • * How to handle the loss of hope that you will be loved the way you want
  • * How to make your partner want to be physically intimate with you!
  • * Should you apologize after an explosion of anger?
  • * How to make up after a fight without giving up!
  • * How to enjoy a relationship and protect yourself at the same time!
  • * How to stop old loyalties from getting in the way of new relationships
  • * To forgive or not to forgive, that is the question!
  • * How to stop explosive bursts of anger
  • * Four ways to manage the excitement and dread of family reunions
  • * How to find the love of your life
  • * Four alternatives to withdrawing from your romantic relationship
  • * Passover troubles and resurrect good times during the holidays
  • * How to survive a betrayal by a loved one
  • * How to stop fear from obstructing your success
  • * How to make sure your gorgeous date asks you out again
  • * How to manage embarrassing moments
  • * How gender differences in handling stress affects intimacy
  • * Three ways to share your stuff without fear of upsetting loved ones.
  • * Are you making the right kind of investment in your happiness?
  • * Overcoming that "it's not fair!" feeling
  • * Understanding your panic attacks- part 3, fear of going it alone!
  • * How to get your confidence back
  • * Why your partner falls short of your ideal partner characteristics!
  • * Three ways to manage the anxiety about pleasing your loved ones
  • * Four ways to make sure your partner values your help
  • * How to make peace without eating humble pie!
  • * How to do your thing without risking rejection from loved ones
  • * The gift that will make your valentine love you for ever!
  • * Why it’s a good sign if your date doesn’t want to sleep with you
  • * Tolerating bad stuff so the good feels even better
  • * Are your flu symptoms promting you to deal with fear of commitment?
  • * Is your relationship break up permanent or just a shift in gears?
  • * How to deal when you want commitment but your partner is hesitant!
  • * How to deal with a partner who is down when you are up!
  • * Why your Sex Life Goes from Fantastic to Boring in the blink of an eye!
  • * Positive affirmations can damage your relationships!
  • * Why your sex life is non-existant part 2- and how to get it going again.
  • * Dealing with someone who won't own hurting you!
  • * Why Your Sex Life Doesn't Work and Three Ways to Revive it!
  • * How to deal with people who want your advice but don't take it!
  • * Why you should be thankful for the things you hate!
  • * How to benefit from being ditched!
  • * Why men shut down and women ramp up in conflicts!
  • * Why does your loved one believe a stranger and not you?
  • * How to rescue your marriage from roommate status!
  • * How to manage the frustrating urge to prove you are right!
  • * Why you don't feel understood when people say they understand- part 2
  • * How to ensure no one bursts your bubble!
  • * Understanding Your Panic Attacks- Part 2 - Getting Past Shame
  • * Why you don't feel understood when your loved ones say "I understand."
  • * Understanding Your Panic Attacks - part 1- Facing your dilemmas
  • * How to avoid having your hopes dashed when you meet your loved one!
  • * Three Ways To Stop Being Invisible To Your Partner
  • * How to trust loved ones so you don’t have to do everything yourself!
  • * How persistent stress induced pain and infection can rescue your marriage!
  • * How to share what's going on with you so it gets through to your loved ones!
  • * Why protecting your partner may be the worst move you ever make!
  • * How to stop others from making your stuff all about them!
  • * How to turn a volatile conflictual marriage into a happy validating union.
  • * How to express hurt and feel better!
  • * Perfectionism may be ruining your intimate relationships!
  • * How does your style of eye contact impact relationship satisfaction?
  • * How to bargain successfully with your loved ones!
  • * How bitterness and self-blame makes you sick and depressed
  • * How to get off the emotional roller coaster with your partner
  • * How to prevent bitterness and blame from making you sick!
  • * How to deal with being blamed for everything!
  • * What makes an exciting relationship turn into a heavy burden?
  • * How to manage the pain of jealousy
  • * Is Guilt The Stick that Motivates You Into Action?
  • * How to get your partner to talk when you want!
  • * Do you want to be driven by fear or self-worth?
  • * Is Your Style of Flirting Working For You?
  • * What makes your partner break promises?
  • * How to stop feeling used in relationships
  • * Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?- part 2
  • * How to stop being lonely!
  • * Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?
  • * How to be independent and still be loved!
  • * Are you dying for affection but cringe when it comes?
  • * How to deal with the "damned if I do, and damned if I don't situation!
  • * Do you have to give up your past in order to have a loving future?
  • * How to make your imagined relationship into a reality!
  • * How a bladder infection can save intimacy in your marriage!
  • * What’s the right combination of commitment for harmonious relationships?
  • * *(How to get affection on your schedule!)*
  • * How to manage two parts of you that want different things!
  • * *(How to get through to loved ones without repeating yourself!)*
  • * How to regain control and self-respect when you feel betrayed
  • * *(How to manage when your partner loses interest in you!)*
  • * How to manage rejection sensitivity and be more open to love!
  • * *(How to be loved 24/7 even if you think you don't deserve it!)*
  • * What makes you happy - people or accomplishments?
  • * *(How to turn nagging into loving connections)*
  • * Is fear of being impactful depriving you of intimacy?
  • * *(How to hang onto good feelings)*
  • * How to deal with the “ if you really loved me you would……..” syndrome!
  • * *(How to get your partner to love you the way you want!)*
  • * What type of self-sacrifice benefits intimate relationships?
  • * *(How to converse with your date so you both feel special!)*
  • * How to stop using hoarding as your intimacy substitute!
  • * *(How to tell if loved ones mean what they say!)*
  • * How to manage fatigue due to relationship problems
  • * *(How to get your own way, avoid guilt and still feel lovable!)*
  • * How to get more by working less at relationships
  • * *(How to deal with the regret of the "I wish I had said...." feeling.)*
  • * Three ways to end back pain linked to mistrust in relationships
  • * *(How to deal with negative reactions you didn't intend to cause!)*
  • * Four LOVE steps for singles to turn dates into long term relationships
  • * *(How to deal with complaining loved ones)*
  • * The secret ingredients for empathy in relationships - part 3
  • * *(How To communicate that you really care)*
  • * The second secret to being empathic and boosting your relationship
  • * *(How to Speak Your Mind Without Feeling Monstrous!)*
  • * Four Ways to Share Feelings and be Empathic -part1
  • * *(How to Avoid Conflict With A Dose of Curiosity)*
  • * 7 Ways to deal with feeling 'needy' in relationships- Part 3
  • * Three ways to avoid feeling needy in relationships- part 2
  • * Two ways to avoid the shame of feeling 'needy.'
  • * Three ways to prevent self-defeatism from causing relationship stress
  • * Four ways to reconnect when your partner snubs you
  • * Fear of Intimacy - Five Tell Tale Signs
  • * How to avoid the same mistakes after a break up
  • * Five ways to breach a misunderstanding with your partner
  • * Do you fit the four point profile of a cheater?
  • * Is relationship stress making your skin dry out?
  • * How to deal with controlling people in your relationships
  • * Ten Ways to Manage Holiday Family Stress
  • * Enjoying Intimacy Like You Did In The Early Days
  • * How to Stop Anger From Ruining Good Times
  • * How to Make up After a Fight and Find Intimacy
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    I felt lighter and more coordinated when I add my feelings to my intellect so I get the right mix for me!

    I went through the day functioning on auto pilot and then I would try to focus on “me and my stuff.” I hated dealing with my issues so it was a relief to get distracted by work and other people. The thing was that I never dealt with my issues and they kept getting bigger and bugging me and interfering with my smooth operation. After working with Dr. Raymond I realized that I put these two parts of me on parallel tracks and never got to the station of my hopes and dreams. Dr. Raymond helped me feel comfortable using all parts of me together so that I didn’t have to do two jobs in order to survive. I felt less burdened when I let my feelings mix with my intellect and make decisions that worked out. I discovered that I was more satisfied and complete as nothing was left out or forgotten. I feel more of me, and at the same time lighter, after Dr. Raymond supported me in accepting my emotions as having a special wisdom that I was grateful to tap into. My emotions no longer feel shameful. They are caring guides and can be trusted and steered with my intelligence. Female program director.

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    I kept my feelings tied up and couldn't make relationships work

    As an actress I was able to call up what ever emotions were required for the part with little difficulty. But in my personal life I didn't trust my feelings. I used my head to interpret things thinking it was a lot of hard work. It made me feel more in control but my relationships felt distant and unsatisfying. Psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond has helped me to trust my feelings. Now they just come naturally and inform me about what I really want and don't want. I let my feelings guide me and they are spot on. I add words to them and they really reflect my true self. It's so much easier to share myself with friends and family. I can feel things spontaneously and enjoy being spontaneous with others. I feel less tired and more inclined to relate. Thirty-seven year old entertainer

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    I learned why I  felt unloved and can now receive and enjoy as much love as I need!

    “I used to guard a good feeling and bat everything else away. It was hard work. Now I don’t feel I’ll lose it if I let other stuff in. Psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond, helped me realize that having other feelings won’t wipe out the first one.  I feel cared for and seen by others.

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    Now I can have more than one feeling at the same time which makes it easier to connect with others.” 

      I can see how  trying to hang onto a single good feeling stopped me from letting others come in to offer me support and appreciation.. Forty-five year old female teacher.

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    I used to gag myself to ensure I didn't let my anger get the better of me

    I thought that anger was a bad thing and that I was letting myself down if I felt angry and a terrible person if I showed it. No matter how hard I tried to avoid feeling angry it kept coming up and it made me despair. I read every book on anger and emotion to find ways to control it. I tried meditation practices but that didn't help either. Psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond helped me to realize that my anger was legitimate. That freed me like nothing else ever did. Miraculously since having my anger justified I haven't felt as angry. That pain in my chest has gone, and I feel so much more in control than before. Now my anger ebbs and flows without making me panic to kill it. It no longer disrupts my life.  As soon as I allow it to exist it looses power. My life has truly never felt so liberating. Thirty-nine year owner-manager in retail business.

     

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    Guilt made me resent and hate my family. Now I feel loving and loved in return!

    “I used to do everything out of guilt. I would feel manipulated, get angry but not speak up. The guilt would overwhelm me and I would do what was being asked. It felt like I had to do it or else I would be a bad person and no one would want to be with me. Then I would hate the person that made be feel guilty and the relationship would suffer.


      Psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond helped me become more aware of this pattern. I can catch that guilty feeling right away and stop it. I give myself a choice and do things only if I really want to. I actually enjoy doing things that way whereas before it felt like a chore that went unrecognized and unappreciated.

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    Now the relationships doesn’t feel so forced and I actually like the person who asked me to do something for them.”  Thirty-two year old   administrator.

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    I discovered how guilt and shame stopped me from relating to family and friends!

    “It was always hard for me to share myself with others. I had a fantasy that they knew just by looking at me so I didn’t have to say anything. I hoped they would want to be with me but I would never say it. That applied to my parents, friends, husband and son. I never said what I truly felt and after psychotherapy with Dr. Raymond I understand that by keeping silent I was sabotaging myself. I was withholding myself maybe because I was angry at my loved ones for not taking the initiative. It robbed me of not only being able to express myself and get it out there, but took so much energy away in just trying to hold it in. 

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    Now I can articulate what’s going on with me even if I’m ashamed or guilty.

    I am more open now. I’ve been able to be with people emotionally for the first time in my life. I now see that I was always hiding behind a barrier. Dr. Raymond has helped me remove the barrier and actually connect with people.” Forty year old independent contractor.

    Copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.

     


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