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How being unselfish is really selfish!

May 18th, 2012 No Comments
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Relationship Advice Tips from Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.

 

psychotherapy for problems with selfishness in relationships west los angeles

photograph copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.

 

Do you like to think of yourself as giving and unselfish?

Do you get stressed out if you think you have lapsed and been selfish or thoughtless?

Do you work really hard at putting your loved ones first and being there for them, staying in the background yourself?

Then you are actually defeating your goal of being unselfish!

Keeping yourself out of the picture deprives others of the most precious parts of you, the person you are, rather than the actions you perform. That makes it a selfish move!

Watch this video and learn how to give and receive in an unselfish way.

Learn how to have a mutually giving and taking relationship so that you enjoy the best of both worlds.

 

 

 

 

copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.

Disclaimer: this video if for informational and educational purposes only. There is no liability on the part of Dr. Raymond for any reactions you may have while watching the video or implementing any of the suggestions therein. Interacting with this material does not constitute a therapeutic relationship with Dr. Raymond.

 

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