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How to stop old loyalties from getting in the way of new relationships

April 27th, 2012 No Comments
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Relationship Advice Tips from Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.

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Are you torn between being loyal to your old partner and making a new relationship?

Do you feel like you are betraying your happy memories and good connections if you date and make a fresh relationship even though the old one is no longer alive and kicking?

Do you find yourself pulling back from your natural instinct to connect and have a warm and secure relationship with someone you feel attracted to?

Are you free to have a new attachment, but don't feel free inside?

Then you probably feel like you have to choose between old loyalties and new opportunities.

That isn't the case. You can have both if you watch this video and follow the tips.

No more stress and conflict of interest when you combine the old and enjoy the new.

 

copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.
 

Disclaimer: this video is for educational and informational purposes only. There is no liability on the part of Dr. Raymond for any reactions you may have while watching the video or implementing any of the suggestions therein. Interacting with this material does not constitute a therapeutic relationship with Dr. Raymond.

 

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